The Crazy Suburban Mom: Sigmund Freud: On under-planning...

Friday, October 19, 2012

Sigmund Freud: On under-planning...

Over the last few weeks I used my Filofax to help with vacation planning and it was a huge success.  Since I'd never done it before I searched around to see what other people did and Whoa! There are lots of great hints and tips on this subject.

After some trial and error I ended up doing none of them because the more rigid the system, the more my  OCD kicks in.  

 No matter how appealing a neatly ordered system looks trying it is the beginning of the end.  Once I lock myself into color-coding and very specific ways of list making I go all perfectionist and the second I can't find the right color pen the plan explodes.

So I opted for loose planning.


I started with a general list.


Rewrote it over several days, crossing out things as I gathered them in a vacation 'pile' on my dresser...


Added in whatever occurred to me ...


Used question marks for things I was considering but hadn't yet decided on...


And packed it all.

For me this sort of planning ( maybe it's more like under-planning)  works well because loose forms of list making don't amp up my anxiety level. For whatever reason, "systems" always leave me feeling like I'm doing it wrong. 

What I did was more free association then rigid order. As Sigmund Freud said, 'where there is a creative mind, Reason - so it seems to me - relaxes its watch upon the gates, and the ideas rush in pell-mell'.

And I think he's right about this.  I didn't forget anything on this vacation (which is amazing).  I can't tell you how many times I arrived at a hotel, unpacked and realized I packed the skirt and forgot the pants.  Or brought the flip-flops and forgot the shoes...  Or went to look for all my power cords and realized I forgot the zip pouch they were in.

The worst year I brought all the shirts and had nothing but a pair of pajama pants to wear with them and this was a November vacation.  To say I was cold doesn't even cover it...

  Perhaps I should consider under planning a bit more on a regular basis.  I was certainly more relaxed during the planning stages and after arriving at the hotel, ecstatic to know I'd Forgotten NOTHING!


And seriously, Mr. Malden is as relaxed as a limp noodle this trip.  

Since I'm not all stressed out, Mr. Malden can just relax and enjoy the view from the balcony, listen to the soothing sounds of the surf, and recharge.

Just like I'm doing!


The Perpetual Student TPS 10/19/12, 10:57 AM  

I'm glad your planning went well, and I hope you had a lovely holiday!
It's funny, you and I are the opposite! I don't have a creative mind like you, I'd love to be able to write the pretty lists you do, but when I try I just don't SEE the things I write down! When I write them on my DPP, colour coded, it works so much better for me! But I'm going to try your way because I want pretty lists :)

Tracy Reinhardt 10/19/12, 11:25 AM  

Kate, Everyone processes information so differently. I guess some people can absorb it any way they try but for most people I really think the way they learn (and absorb) is kind of one way or the other.

It's frustrating because I'd love to try many different things but the way I find success is pretty much stuck.

Its probably a good thing - insight about yourself brings you closer to 'success in the long run

Pallavi 10/21/12, 8:24 PM  

Hi Tracy! I'm so glad to have run across your blog about Filofaxes I have been doing a great deal of research and thanks to you I've decided on the pocket rio to get my daily life organized. I am about to place a large order on the yozocraft site for the cute pouch that you had and a bunch of kawaii stickers. I'm also planning to buy a FILO for my friend so she can use it for her work. I can't wait to decorate her FILO with a cute pouch and some post its!
I'm def gonna use my FILO on trips like you :) thanks for the wonderful ideas xoxo hugs

Mommy to Ander and Loki 10/21/12, 10:59 PM  

This particular post really gave me some insight. I tend to make "rules" about my planner and then freak out when I don't follow them. You inspired me. I put little shapes around my reminders to work out, instead of making them perfect like I usually do. It sounds silly, but it's a big step for me. Thanks!

Tracy Reinhardt 10/22/12, 5:13 AM  

Pallavi - I'm so happy you found helpful things here and Yozo craft is just amazing! I love that site. This is the first time I used my filo for trip planning, it worked so well! And it made my trip so much easier!

Mommy to Ander and Loki - I know what you mean about big steps! This one was huge for me too. Planning got so much easier and less stressful when I left things loose.


Shadow Wolf 10/22/12, 6:48 PM  

I have a similar issue in some ways - if I over-plan I find it makes me more anxious rather than less. I am constantly trying to tread a horribly narrow line between being totally disorganised and terrified by my own systems. I find it inspiring to see how you've managed to make a lovely simple system work for you. Thanks so much for sharing this!

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