The Crazy Suburban Mom: 2009-10-18

Friday, October 23, 2009

Toll roads...



Honestly...

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How in the world are you supposed to read the signage at 65 mph?

To continue....

If you do manage to read it and don't have E-Z Pass you
are now trying to figure out if you have exact change....

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Once you can ascertain what the toll is...

and which one of the..

...what eight?...or is that thousand lanes...

you should have already be in....



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You than need to get in that one single lane...

and I'll have you know this picture was taken mid-day ...

at rush hour every single, solitary, space is filled with a car....

Or eight-wheeler...

Impressive, right?

And you wondered why people from NJ are cranky?

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Thursday, October 22, 2009

The difference bewteen thrifting and retail is not money it's...




patience....



I bought this mirror a long time ago...

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It fit in a really awkward corner. To the left my kitchen, to the right a main stairway and then my living room. You see the mirror when you walk in the front door.

I love the copper and the design but it hung, stark...for years.



Many years.... Until someone gave me this....

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And I was getting somewhere...but still....

Stark. So stark.

Than someone sent me a plant in a basket.

A ha!

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I think if you want a home you love you have to have the
patience to wait for your home to happen around you.

Happy Vintage Thingies Thursday, Colorado Lady , Dolomba Days and everyone else!

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Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Cape May


Every year, in the fall, I go to Cape May, New Jersey.

It's empty. The stores have closed, the season's over...


Walking away....

I go to take pictures...

I miss the ocean...

I love this time of year in Cape May.

On giving and generosity...

The dawn...

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The night is very cold; sharp and sparkling - like the inside of an ice crystal.

a ways away


It's the quiet, I love. It's almost something you can feel around you.


I miss the ocean even when it's calm...


The silence.



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Just me and the pebbles; the only things on the beach those mornings...


BEACHFENCE


And all that room to breathe ...

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Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Retro Tuesay with a family twist

It's Retro Tuesday again!

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I love Retro Tuesday!  I've been sitting here going through a copy of The American Home, 1948 to find something flashy and spectacular - a towering and florescent Jell-o concoction (OH! How I love those...) or a piece of furniture to covet... or something that would have cost less than five dollars in the 50's that I saw on eBay yesterday for... oh... I dunno... a couple o'hundred?

The thing is, I find the images of homes so appealing.  Or maybe it's the images of an idyllic home life.  I've talked to my parents about their lives and the lives of their parents.  It was hard. And not hard like my life, bone hard.

Both my grandfathers (or great grand-fathers) worked the garment industry - one was a presser.  Early in the 20th century he walked through New York City  carrying a pressing machine on his back  looking for work.  My father's family routinely didn't have a place to live and stayed with relatives ( if they themselves had room.)

I think, for many people, these magazines were the same as they are to me - An unattainable dream.

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They would have been for my family...

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My dad looked very much like the boy in the mirror... and his sister, 12 years younger...the girl.  I doubt either of them had ever even seen a bathroom like this at this age.  There wasn't the money to buy this magazine.  My father told me he saved money for weeks to go to the movies on Saturdays where he could stay all day. And laugh.

This room..

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Would have been very much my grandmother's taste.  This grandmother (here).    I doubt at most points in her life she had enough to fill this.

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She had a great sense of color and was a great seamstress.  She told me a lot about her sense of color.  When they got a little more money and a place to live she decorated her living room in purple and green.  Everyone told her she was crazy.  She laughed when she told me she knew it would work.  And because I inherited her sense of color, in my head I was running the colors through my mind, and could tell she was right.  I bet it looked spectacular.

You go girl, I know you did.


Want to win this?  I'm giving two of them away!

Pink Together Inspiring Hope Gift Pack_Small

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Monday, October 19, 2009

What's up with toilet paper?

So listen, yesterday I had to buy toilet paper.  I was close to being out (as in rationing squares close) so it's not like I could buy just a roll or two. I had to buy so much toilet paper it required a cart.  I had to buy an amount that screamed THE ENTIRE FAMILY ASSOCIATED WITH THIS CART ATE BAD LINGUINE WITH CLAM SAUCE...  I had to buy a humiliating amount of toilet paper.


Basically.


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And so, like standing in the toilet paper aisle with the pregnant pause version of a shopping cart waiting to be filled with nothing but rolls and rolls of toilet paper wasn't  mortifying  enough,  I'm forced to actually read and process information.  Do I want the Double 12 rolls equal 24 rolls? Or the 16 Mega rolls that equals 36 rolls or the 47 SasquatchElephantineMonstrous rolls that equals 427 rolls?


Okay, I made the last one up.



See, apparently there a difference between the non-adjectived plain rolls  and  -- Hang on a sec, I'm taking a little detour here because, spank me everyway till Sunday but I certainly couldn't find anyone copping to just 'rolls' and if there are no 'just rolls than what in the heck are ...Okay, detour over -- BIG rolls and MEGA rolls and ULTRA rolls but damned if I can tell the difference without a complex series of algebraic equations requiring - I don't know ...a mainframe?


So, what's up with toilet paper anyway?




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UPDATED - A pink giveaway to feel good about... Two actually...

 Pink Together Logo_SM

*This post has been updated *


*I'm offering 2 of the pink together packs*

 - explanation at the bottom -

I don't do a lot of sponsored giveaway type things; hardly any actually.  I guess y'all have figured that out by now.  And when I do them I don't paste ad copy.  But Blogspark sent me one about National Breast Cancer Awareness Month  announcing the Pink Together site on MySpace and I decided to do it...

And there will be verbatim ad copy .  Because this:

The site is part of Pink Together®, a national campaign to support those impacted by breast cancer and to help raise awareness of the disease. To support Pink Together, General Mills is donating $2 million to Susan G. Komen for the Cure® and is turning the packaging pink next month on an assortment of its most beloved brands. 

General Mills will also donate $1, up to $20,000, each time you post a comment of encouragement, send a virtual flower bouquet or share a story on PinkTogether.com in October. 

Doesn't need to be said any better. 

My mom died of cancer less than a  month after my son turned one. In fact, the last pictures of her were from his first birthday party.    My mom and I didn't always have the best relationship, in fact, it wasn't good a lot. 

I haven't talked about this on my blog before but - My son was conceived after my mother was diagnosed with cancer.  I spun my wheels for years trying to decide the exact right moment to have a child.  Is this right? Is that?  Do I have enough money? Do I live in the right place?

After my mother's diagnosis my wheels stopped spinning, I might have more time but she might not.  And she didn't.  I spent most of my life in New Jersey - but my son was conceived and born in North Carolina.  I moved back to New Jersey when my son was a month old and have been here since.  In my mother's eyes her grandson was the best thing I'd ever done and was without a doubt, a gift.


Life, in all it's forms, really is a gift.  His first year was her last. The time she had with her new baby grandson was the most wonderful and joyful thing in that last year. It was healing for me as well.  It bandaged a lot of hard feelings I'd been hanging on to.  I got to see her the way I'd always wanted her to be; as the loving person I was seeing with my own child.


My mother didn't die of breast cancer but the devastation of cancer is familiar to me.   The important thing here is... I know people who have had breast cancer (emphasis on the word had) - Friends.  Who are still my friends today, living and working and raising their kids... maybe even having a few more babies.  

And people like my mother who lived long enough to meet and know her grandson.... for even a little while is something they wouldn't have gotten that long ago... And because of hope and progress and donations like the $2 million General Mills is donating  to Susan G. Komen for the Cure ... maybe those same people can live much longer than a just a little while.


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There is a giveaway with this and it's pretty adorable.    I'm getting one and I have another one to give away.  But to be honest, I would have done this with out the adorable Barbie-pink Cinch-bag, etc....  It's just the right thing to do. Just leave me a comment and your email address please - Oh! Please leave me your email.  



I don't normally ask people to do anything other than comment here  but I'd really like to get as many comments on the Pink Together site as possible.  

If you could link back to me or tweet or something it would be wonderful because General Mills will donate a dollar each time you post a comment of encouragement, send a virtual flower bouquet or share a story on PinkTogether.com in October (up to $20,000). And wouldn't it be wonderful if that much could be raised?

Since this is through October I'll just let this run until the end of October -  Halloween at 11:00 pm - eastern time!  I know that's a loooong time. But maybe with your help I can get lots of $1 donations and help cure one woman at a time. 

virtual flower or post some words of encouragement for others;
And since this is not my giveaway - US residents only

* Here is the Monday morning update *


 I asked Blogspark if I could give away 2 of the pink together packs and they said, "absolutely!"  I hope this will generate more comments on the pink together site.  

I didn't mention it before but the items in the giveaway come  from ShopKomen.com, and 25 % of the merchandise purchased there benefit "Susan G. Komen for the Cure®" in the fight against breast cancer.

So the extra giveaway is win-win for everyone!

Thank you for you're support, everyone.


As an aside - I know some people don't comment because they don't want to be entered into the giveaway.  I understand.  If you want to comment because you have something personal to say, but do not want the giveaway just let me know IN the comment and I will leave you out when doing the drawing.



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My post today...

Is  called


Born to be Wild... ish


And it's actually here


although there probably will be another one a bit later

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