The Crazy Suburban Mom: What you never want to hear your kid say...

Friday, October 16, 2009

What you never want to hear your kid say...

Ma, I had an accident.

I didn't want to hear that, ever ever ever.   Since he got his license I hoped I wouldn't hear that.

The only good thing was he made the call - I think I might have just died right there if someone else had made the call and said, Ma'am you're son was in an accident.

I think the space between that sentence and the next might have killed me - It wouldn't have mattered what the next one was; I think I would have died during the pause waiting.

My son is okay, a little sore.  A little shell-shocked.  A little wiser.

I may never recover from the call.

This was Wednesday morning at 8:30 and it's been a blur since than.  I had his car - well, it used to be a car... At the moment it's more a modern art piece ... towed 100 miles, home.  And to any of you that don't have AAA Plus (it's the plus that gets you extended towing) get it today.

The fact that you can have a car towed that far - the fact that you can have you're own mechanic take care of it and not someone who you don't know... Oh man.  Worth every penny.  This is the AAA site HERE, you won't be sorry if you ever need them.


So today's score is...  Day 26, no car (me)

and Day 2, no car for my son...

This is getting ridiculous...

*ps - Just so ya know - AAA has no idea who I am.  Well, they will when they get the tow bill, I suppose, for towing my kid's car 100 miles.  But just wanted to keep it real.  I am just a regular, happy paying customer .*


Rinkly Rimes 10/16/09, 7:24 AM  

Let's just say it could have been a lot worse!

The Crazy Suburban Mom 10/16/09, 7:26 AM  

Rinkly, I keep telling my son that - Ive worked in hospitals. He doesn't get that. He hasn't had that experience. For him this was the worst thing. He feels bad about the car, the money - the inconvenience..and it scared him like mad. He isnt really able to internalize how much worse it could have been - thats all mine.

heidi 10/16/09, 8:48 AM  

holy cow. glad all are safe. maybe not sound, but safe!

Mary 10/16/09, 9:04 AM  

I'm glad he's fine. :) That's the important thing.

I know what you mean about going over the worst that could have happened again and again. I'm still doing that from our carbon monoxide problem last winter. A couple more hours and my husband would have come home to a dead daughter and wife. It's horrible to think about - so I understand where you're coming from.

My sisters and I always used to preface those calls thusly: Dad? Don't worry, everyone's okay. But ....

Now that we're older, we start conversations that way just to get a rise out of him. :p

ladyjanewriter 10/16/09, 9:09 AM  

Eeek! *hugs*

I donno why, it just appears to be different for straight guys? (And, I guess, especially sons?)

I donno, my big bro thought he had 9 lives like a cat till the last one, and part of him STILL wants a motorcycle *facepalm*...

I think it's testosterone. I can't see any other reason for boys to feel so indestructible.

(Fortunately, I think he's more tweaked out about it than he's letting on...You are his Mom, after all.)


Oh, and yes, AAA rules! I don't have a vehicle anymore, but when I did getting the maximum amount of services was TOTALLY worth it.

The Crazy Suburban Mom 10/16/09, 9:13 AM  

Heidi, Yes - all freaked out but safe :)

Mary - omg, thats awful. awful. And we do have a carbon monoxide thingy - that would make a good blog post tho - you should totally do one.

LadyJane - you are so right. testosterone is a weird thing. AAA is not. It rules.

@eloh 10/16/09, 9:26 AM  

I know it isn't easy, but this is the best thing that could happen to a young man. The fright of the accident, the loss of his car...will make for a very careful driver...

I've had both those calls. My oldest girl was in a heavy old Buick, she was fine and is now the most careful driver in the country, and has been for many years now.

Neither accident was the fault of my children and that helps them all be careful. After what happened to his brother, my youngest boy didn't even get a permit until he was 19. He had been driving my old pick up around Rancho Apocalypto logging for me for years, but did not want to go out with other drivers.
My "baby" is 19 now and she still doesn't want a licence.

The Crazy Suburban Mom 10/16/09, 9:40 AM  

eloh - I was on a rescue squad when I was 18 - I've seen a lot of dead people who werent the cause of accidents. I've had a few accidents and never have been the cause of them and I had injuries. I tried to drive that home to him - tried to really say it didnt matter who was at fault. I probably failed a little. I'm not sure if you've never seen it that kind of message really hits home.

Lidian 10/16/09, 11:31 AM  

I'm just so glad your son is OK. That must have been so scary!

xxx Lidian

Mom Mayhem says: 10/16/09, 1:07 PM  

Oh man- I'm glad he's ok and that you have that great Triple A ;) Sucks that now both of you don't have cars now :( Hope it all gets better soon!

The Crazy Suburban Mom 10/16/09, 1:09 PM  

Thanks Lidian, very scary!

Mom Mayhem - oh man Im so glad! And I can't even believe we are down 2 cars. I can't even believe it. I don't know what we will do. Its sort of like some surreal comedy movie - cause this can't possibly happen in real life can it?

Well I mean it can cause it did but geeeeze!

Pollyanna 10/16/09, 2:45 PM  

First, I'm glad your son is ok.

Second, I'm sure you will recover. You might have more gray hair but you will recover.

Third, I laughed at the first line of your post. I have a 4 & 6 year old. My idea of an accident is not the same. Sorry I laughed. For what it's worth, I don't like hearing that my kids had an accident either.

The Crazy Suburban Mom 10/16/09, 3:42 PM  

Polly - oh right! The other kind of accident! Been a while for one of those for me. Don't you wish there was someone to call for those kinds of accidents too? LOL, I know I sure did!

Sarah Lulu 10/16/09, 4:20 PM  

Thank goodness your son is alright. My own son got his driver's license last week! I can only pray and lecture a lot!

Thank you for your lovely comment on my blog.

Lisa 10/16/09, 5:40 PM  

Two things I have learned. #1 Get a junker for a 16 year old. They WILL wreck. #2 For the first semester in college...maybe even the first year...have them take cheesy-easy classes. Yeah, sure all the moms of brainey kids, will be bragging about how their child is scoring 18-20 hours. See who is bragging at the end of the semester when your kid as 4.0, and is socialized...familiar with campus.and their kid is on academic probation, from the late night alcohol poisoning. Yes! Even the brainiac nerds, go wile at university!

The Crazy Suburban Mom 10/16/09, 6:04 PM  

Sarah - You're photographs were lovely and really did make my morning. I needed that kind of visual deep breath today. And it is hard when the kids get their licenses - all you can do it the best to prepare them... the rest is up to them.

Lisa - Oh man. Oh man Oh man. Every kid I know I think did have an accident although I don't think I did - so I guess I didn't think he would :) Don't know what I was thinking.

Sandra 10/16/09, 6:23 PM  

I got a few calls I never wanted to get too. I hardly lived through some of them. Never say, "My kid will never do that." I have the best kids in the world....and...nobody is perfect. Glad this accident did not harm him and I know he learned from it. Get yo car back girl!

The Crazy Suburban Mom 10/16/09, 6:27 PM  

Sandra -So true! My son's car is in the shop ...mine? in the morgue. My car is not repairable and I have, how to say this... nothing coming up the pike. Im a mom in a minivan with no minivan! Hope I don't have to change my darn banner!

Jody 10/16/09, 8:24 PM  

Hey, thanks for stoppin' over at my blog and nice to know you like the jewelry box. I've actually found two more same style that I plan on refinishing and selling down the road. Try it sometime, its fun!

Amy 10/16/09, 8:49 PM  

Glad to hear that you are all okay. I hope it all gets worked out.

Spring 10/16/09, 9:39 PM  

First time visiting your blog, just came over from We Are That Family... and I thought you meant the "other kind of accident" too, at first. My 3 are between 4 and 11, and even though it has been a few years since accidents here, I have not yet reached the driving phase yet! Day 150-something with no car in suburbia here! Still hoping "tomorrow" his car will be running again. :)

Delightful Dwelling 10/16/09, 10:37 PM  

Wow, how scary! I'm glad he was not hurt. We have the "Gold" level of AAA for the extended towing. Well worth it and we always save enough from the AAA discounts on hotels and stuff to pay for most of the membership costs.

JUST ME, THE MOM 10/17/09, 1:23 PM  

Ought Oh! Cars are dropping like flys around there. So glad everyone is okay, that's what counts, except maybe your mothering heart, hope it makes a smooth recovery:) I'm going for the AAAplus!

Thanks for the tip!


Brooke 10/17/09, 9:00 PM  

Just wanted to say I'm glad he's OK... and man am I dreading the day my boys turn 16!

icedteaforme 10/21/09, 12:21 AM  

I am late, but so glad your son is ok as are the other people in the accident......we know SEVERAL friends with teenage drivers that have had mega accidents in the last few months, all not their fault but still a mega dose of NO FUN with no car, insurance issues and lack of liquid assets...
as for your lack of mini-van status, hey aren't you an empty nester now? time for that red convertible or pink vespa or whatever might make you smile!!!!

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