The Crazy Suburban Mom: My boy has a chatter filter or the difference between men and woman # 1

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

My boy has a chatter filter or the difference between men and woman # 1

This is a conversation I had with my son 10 years ago when he was supposed to go with a family friend who does maintenance work. It gave the boy a chance to run around on roof tops.

Me: Okay, so listen to me... You have to call Roger and tell him you can't go to work with him today.

The Boy: 'K

Me: But wait, look at me.. No, at me. You have to let him know that Mommy messed up the schedule and that you're really sorry. You don't want him to think you don't want to go.

The Boy: 'K

Me: And tell him that maybe you can go next week and Mom will look at the calender and if you can go we will call him back. But today you can't go. Maybe you will call next week if you can. Or maybe the next....

The Boy: Ma....

Me: Say it...

The Boy: You screwed up, maybe next week, something something, sorry...

Me: And tell him that you were all ready to go and it's not like you are doing anything else instead. You don't want him to think that something came up that would be more fun, it's just that you can't go this week but you'd love to go next week. If you can. And if not maybe next month.

(silence)

Me: Hello?

The Boy: I heard you. I can't go.

Me: No the rest, did you hear the rest.

The Boy: How could I help it?

(Don't you just love a sarcastic 8 year old?)

Me: Okay, go call him and tell him everything I said.

My son goes to the phone, turns away from me and dials.

The Boy: Rog?

The Boy: Mmmm-hhhhmmm...

The Boy: Yeah. Me too.

The Boy: Can't go this week.

The Boy: 'K Bye.

He hangs up the phone and walks past me. Oblivious to the look on my face.

The Boy: Roger says, Hi.

And with that he walked upstairs and I realized that men and woman really do communicate differently.

It's a fact. It's chromosomal. It's not environmental. Men view conversation directly.

And seem to think what woman say is 90% chatter. Even if its' their moms saying it.

6 Comments:

muthahhood 5/13/09, 12:16 PM  

Hey there-Lewsly from mothahhood. I left you a reply to my reply. Thanks you for your kind words of support.

Also, this post above---could have easily happened at my house. In fact, I think it did! I just clicked to follow you and will add you to my blogroll. Hope you'll check back on my sit. I'd love to hear your feedback as I am new to this whole blogging world.

mothahhood 5/13/09, 12:17 PM  

Crap--just posted my name wrong-put muthahhood, instead of mothahhood

Shawn 5/13/09, 1:31 PM  

Actually, I've heard scientific studies cited that conclude that women speak in a tonal pitch that is incomprehensible and all too easily ignored by the male ear. I quite believe it.

tracy 5/13/09, 1:42 PM  

Mothahood - I knew what you meant :)

Shawn - If he wasnt ignoring me biologically he was doing a very good impersonation :)

tracy

Katy 5/14/09, 10:50 AM  

Oh, this is soooo true! I could carry on and on about something that my husband could say concisely in less than 10 words. I don't think that men understand the emotion in conversation. Like, you were trying to make sure that Roger didn't get offended by thinking that your son didn't want to go. But, I suppose Roger doesn't care because he's a man too. I totally get it!

tracy 5/15/09, 5:30 AM  

katy - yes thats exactly it. didnt want roger to be offended. or he had something better to do...

I dont know communication is so simple for him ;)

tracy

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